I'm not bothering to post pictures today. The KADD continues, so everything looks basically the same, but there's more of it. Another repeat on the scarf, a little more on each of the three pair of socks, does that look like someone was casting on a hat in the corner? Sssh, I'm sure if we don't mention it, they won't notice.
Yesterday was a dream, today a knitter's nightmare. Yesterday, I was working at the bookstore, and a lady and her mother came in looking for the SnB book. Now, let me say that I'm not a great fan of Debbie Stoller. I think it's great that all these girls started knitting, but I'd been knitting most of my life when I read her book, and the intro irritated me so much that I couldn't enjoy the patterns. Don't get me started on SnB Nation. Anyway. It came to pass that the mother had already given the woman a basic knitting book, and as we talked, I told her to go ahead and look at the SnB patterns, but if she didn't like *those*, the how-to directions were nothing revolutionary, and to stick with what she had. Also, because I'm that kind of fan, I recommended
Stephanie Pearl McPhee's Knitting Rules which I adore, especially since it proposes that you don't need a pattern, and you can figure things out yourself, and also the word "arse" entertains me in a way "ass" never will.
It then came about that the woman wanted to learn cabled knitting, and we discussed how neither of these books would do her any good at all. We talked for about ten minutes about knitting, the knitting explosion of the past few years, and how awkward it is to be a twenty-something knitter who people think bought her pink chibi on ebay, because how long has she
really been knitting (since I was six, if you care, which is twenty years ago now). When she and her mother went off into the chilly night, another woman who'd been hanging about the fringes siddled up and said "So...have you ever steeked something?"
Ah, my friend. Let me tell you a story.
Today was not a knitter's dream. A good friend of mine has been living with an MS diagnosis for years, but it turns out that the medication to control the swelling on his brain is not working well right now, or in fact at all. This is not fatal, because there will be another medication that will work, but it means he's looking forward to several months of nausea, dizziness, and general crappiness as the docs try med after med until they find something that will work to control the problem and not interact too badly with his current cocktail. He's a good man, a wonderful man, for all that he can be too New York for this VT girl, and he was too strong to hug today. The best I could do was when he asked to take the rest of the day off, say "Absolutely. Go. Get home. Stare at a wall, and let me know if there's anything I can do to help."
The long look, and the hint of a smile meant the world to me.
And as I watched him gather up his things to go, I thought about how he always wears his big black coat and his black knit cap, but no scarf. And I want to make him a scarf, but I'm still searching for something suitably...well, Richard. He's one of those men, while very affectedly gay, right down to the limpy walk and the dangling wrists, whose masculinity is never for a moment in question. Perhaps something like Grumperina's Sharfik, in Rowan cashsoft? I wish that my budget and my time were free, that I could take a week off work in some nether space and knit up our friendship, and then when I was done, knit something for my friend whose mother will pass soon due to the cancer, and finish the socks for my aunt, and knit a million hats for the Battered Women Shelter, and while I'm at it, how about I write the novel in my brain and get it published, okay? And then I'll go to work tomorrow.
I guess I just feel weighted down by the difference between who I want to be and who I have the time to be. I wanted to give Richard something warm and caring to help him through the rest of the day. But I didn't have time, the right yarn, or the ability to instantly cast on a scarf while I did cashrec.
I did the best I could by not putting up a fuss, by specifically saying that if he couldn't make it in Saturday, he wasn't to worry, just to call us, and to caringly tell him to get better, to take the time to get back on his game, get ready to fight the good fight, and all of that. By taking the time to notice that he wasn't right, and be gently persistent enough that he told me what was going on, and what he needed from me.
Until the universe invents unlimited knitting time that doesn't make me tired or take away from the rest of the day, I think I will have to hope that was enough.